"my daughter is coming to your house, please take...." aunty's teary voice was interrupted by trayee's (my best friend forever, my soulmate) buaji- 'dont say my daughter...say your daughter in law...". aunty looked up with moist eyes and put down the phone....trayee's status changed overnight from being a daughter to a daughter-in-law and it seems now she has to be called as your daughter-in-law than my daughter even by her own parents. i believe its not the case of just trayee. its with every woman on this earth!
i overheard the conversations and basant, trayee's ever lasting love and now husband, repeated the same lines and said that aunty has been crying and its becoming difficult to console her. while i am considered to be too good at consoling and counselling people at difficulties, i thought it is not appropriate to console a mother while her daughter is leaving for her in law's place. i went inside..and aunty saw me and held out her hands and said, "moonu (trayee's nickname) yeh karo...moonu woh karo...moonu bhaat khecho? moonu sojao...moonu moonu moonu...moine kabhi bhi moonu ko chorke nahi raha..ab dorr logta hai..moonu waha kaise reh payegi..bachchi hai". my eyes were moist, there was a lump in my throat and i realised - i was moved.
i attended many weddings. my cousins, my friends, relatives...many of them got married. but trayee's wedding is something different. it taught me how an institution called marriage is formed and how relationships change overnight! how a mother feels when her daughter leaves! how a father manages the whole wedding gala without a trace of tear! how relatives, though we dont see them for ages, turn out during our wedding and support us. how our in-laws, whether they like the wedding or not, try to maintain a compose and let the marriage materialise.
while parents are happy and elated that their kids are getting married, the change in the marital status equally bothers them.
happiness of getting married
excitement about the new status
frustration with the over work
irritation with the last minute errands
sadness of leaving our loved ones
anger of some unwanted happenings
a wedding has all the colours and emotions attached to it! a wedding of emotions should be seen not just as an occasion to flaunt jewellery, saris, cuisines and money. i see it as solemnising different relationships and networking of love and affection.
a wedding of emotions it is :)
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it's like a mega event for any gal and for her family. nice post.
for the first time, i actually ever read your post. It was definitely great reading the same.......
:)
yeah this is the wedding season
hv my sis's wedding next week as well
pehli bengali shadee dekhi hai kya? chalo rehne do........i hv nothing to say here, but i like the way u described the emotions attached.
"Wedding emotions" is a new phrase in English . Comparable to a rainbow . Happiness to sorrow in different grades like colours of a rainbow.
till the dowry scam hits the space ..
sare emotions ladki walon k hi hoti hain.. ladke wale aiye,, aur dulhan leke chale gate....
I hate such rituals where we waste time, energy, money for the sake of society.
Too many weddings.. Too much to handle.. :)
I think the emotional quotient has become far less now.. Certainly not like the yesteryear's where getting a daughter married was almost like sending her away to a place where everything was uncertain..
Weddings are "evolving".Last month I had attended two marriage receptions. 1)My classmate whose parents married intercaste (Andhra and UP)invited me for their son`s marriage . The bride Muthulakshmi a Tamilian is a strict vegetarian. Both are working in US.They showed their 32 for emotions.
2)The bride Martha is a Mexican American and speaks Spanish her mother tongue and English out of necessity. Now she even knows Telugu - a little bit. The groom Harikishan is an ex student of GITAM and and a classmate of my son. The gromm`s parents invited the pressand TV to give an interview.Groom`s father is a Brahmin and mother a Kamma.The entire audience displayed 32 for emotions
hope you are doing great...cheers
yep, u r rite. and poor me is going to go through this in 3 months
Mothers got emotional at such times. Nice post!
Best wishes.:)
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