"so you are a virgin..right?"
"excuuuuse me...."
'well i am just asking in case..if you are..then i can suggest a better groom for you"
"like a virgin male for me?"
"no...the elders were interested in it..not me...you know...you have been out of your home since a decade and you are a very brave/bold/enthusiastic girl (woman)....so i was insisting that you are not that type of girl"
"i think the signal is low...will talk to you later..bye for now"
i hung up and was wondering what people are upto? this is 2009 and you want to know if a girl is virgin before hooking her up with a man who is a sadhu and innocent (as they claim) ... just like the fresh one from mother's womb! come on give me a break!
what if i say 'yes i am' but yet am promiscuous...
what if i say 'no..i am not'...but yet i never had any relationship?
i obviously never mind if the guy (groom) have had n-number of relationships before marriage....let him be committed to me aftermath...even if he is interested in other girl after the wedding..i would certainly try to analyse the situation...talk about it and try to save the relationship till the last string than make a fuss out of it!
but why men want PURE women? or do they really care about it? most of my male pals are very generous and i am amazed by the way they accept women in their lives...i was wondering how lucky their wives would be to have them as their spouses (or do they just talk but still mind it when it comes to action?)
virginity is for the soul...not the body! a promiscuous woman might remain virgin through out her life even if she have had numerous relationships and vice versa!
guys out there! if you still think you need a virgin female....forget it! even if she is...she would never want a man like you! trust me.........
"excuuuuse me...."
'well i am just asking in case..if you are..then i can suggest a better groom for you"
"like a virgin male for me?"
"no...the elders were interested in it..not me...you know...you have been out of your home since a decade and you are a very brave/bold/enthusiastic girl (woman)....so i was insisting that you are not that type of girl"
"i think the signal is low...will talk to you later..bye for now"
i hung up and was wondering what people are upto? this is 2009 and you want to know if a girl is virgin before hooking her up with a man who is a sadhu and innocent (as they claim) ... just like the fresh one from mother's womb! come on give me a break!
what if i say 'yes i am' but yet am promiscuous...
what if i say 'no..i am not'...but yet i never had any relationship?
i obviously never mind if the guy (groom) have had n-number of relationships before marriage....let him be committed to me aftermath...even if he is interested in other girl after the wedding..i would certainly try to analyse the situation...talk about it and try to save the relationship till the last string than make a fuss out of it!
but why men want PURE women? or do they really care about it? most of my male pals are very generous and i am amazed by the way they accept women in their lives...i was wondering how lucky their wives would be to have them as their spouses (or do they just talk but still mind it when it comes to action?)
virginity is for the soul...not the body! a promiscuous woman might remain virgin through out her life even if she have had numerous relationships and vice versa!
guys out there! if you still think you need a virgin female....forget it! even if she is...she would never want a man like you! trust me.........
19 comments:
Just relax dear....keep smiling
there are different types of People in our world.
i dunno but i was expecting u write this blog from a long time n u have finally made it. good.
virginity is for the soul...not the body! i just wonder who are those few virgins left out in this world.
a frn of mine was telling that 'one can't expect sita when he's not rama' wen it comes to girls...if she's sita..are there any rama's in this world?mystery.
nice post. eager to read comments....
Hehe.. Another one down the drain.. lol. :)
Yeah ! I can actually understand what you must have been feeling... your anger is right... Man out there really need to come out of their boxes...
Keep Penning :)
Is this a real story? If so, I am shocked and I seriously pity the girl who is finally going to hook up with that guy.
Spot on, young lady (:
I would rather Reply your blog not by a comment ,but by another blog written by me
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comment please
Vaka Ravi
LOL...
another reason for me to blame the process :P
way to go gal :)
I am a senior citizen . I am married. I have a grown up marriageable son. At present my sex life is confined to fantasy only. In my fertile creative fantasy even now I enjoy many beautiful women. But I do not womanise because I am afraid of society. I vouch for several friends of mine who are in the same predicament.I am loyal and faithful to my wife.None beats me in honesty and integrity. My moral courage is exemplary
i liked yr thought swathi, well said, no matter how many relationship the guys have , but they look for a pure female. I agree to u that they will never get one.
In the context of finding a wife, I think a guy who wants a virgin is probably coming from some level of insecurity, just like a girl asking for one. I've never understood that myself, but people find all sorts of reasons to accept/reject others.
Personally, I think what we're seeing in India is what the US saw in the 60s, 70s and 80s. Women, finally (!!), are becoming more independent and far more self-sufficient.
In the US, this led to a situation where existing marriages were ending because they were entered into for the wrong reasons, and now that the woman could support herself, she didn't need to be in the situation she was in, see "The Age of Hedonic Marriage":
http://www.economist.com/blogs/freeexchange/2008/01/the_age_of_hedonic_marriage.cfm
However, this adds a curious wrinkle. In the US, there's an entire generation of angry single women who waited too long in pursuit of their careers to have kids, only to realise they've lost that chance.
Anyway, I've gone way off tangent about the virginity thing. Someone's past is just that, their past. People need to practice honesty and good faith in life. Well, I know I need to :)
@Arpita:You are not true in all the possible scenarios.This is one of the scenarios where I feel that what happened to her is very unfortunate and unfair.
What if I ask you?.No matter what and how much women earn or women don't earn(condition made my her parents or the boys family) or don't earn(upon her interest),she want a husband who earns more salary(vary as per those three situation and not true in all scenarios).Now isn't this being unfair with men.Over the years we are being pressurised by the girl,parent's(both girls and boys) to work hard for a handsome package year after year(Agreed I'm a MCP).
Wonder if men have a term called FCP,I really love to call her one,when she said "that they(men) will never get one in her last line."
Bottomline:We also have our share of complains on women which you would never agree with ,unfortunately they are genuine and true.
Apologies for being rude.
I would recommend you to read my blog in reply to Swathi's blog :
http://voyeger3.blogspot.com/2009/07/trying-to-prove-men-wrong-doesnt-make.html
Dont know about most of your male pals but this is one question i will never ask my wife as i also believe in this past is past present and future are ours.
i hope i am your pal
J3M
Hey dude wassup ..
Excellent article and interesting comments ..
I never knew dat you write ..
" guys out there! if you still think you need a virgin female....forget it! even if she is...she would never want a man like you! trust me........." oh.. really?? :)
why do people give so much preference to three letters 'Sex'
I think in any relationship trust is more important if trust is missing then it doesn't matter whether your girl is virgin or not.
well this means that u bang every other day every new people and theres nothing wrong with it....
Men dont want pure lady.....but thing is men dont want whore s also...as simple as it can get...
whats wrong with having n- numbers of aqquaintance is that shows that the basic character of a man or a woman is not upright..... and that dose matters while choosing a life long partner..
well asking someone is virgin or not is something very stupid though
and all those females who thinks that guys want a pure breed...u ppl are just unlucky in u r own way
Hi Swathi,
I have read urs and Ravi's reply blog too.. And being your good friend (I think so far I am) and also open minded person, I can say Ravi has written almost what came in my mind after reading it... Just that he had put it on writting really nicely... :-)
So finally this world is not perfect no one is perfect and perfection is subjective and relative.. So as he said U can never expect 100% and compromise is the only way of living Happy life. Human mind and thoughts are very much volatile.. Today U think one thing tomorrow Ur thoughts might get changed after gettign some experiences in life...
Again, Nothign wrong in expressing and write what U feel but do not stick to your thoughts even after U feel the counter arguments are not untrue.Every one need to think , say, discuss and get the best out of it.. :-)
Hope U understand it.. lots of pending issues for discussion wiht U this can be one more added if U wish to discuss on ..
remember we all friends love U..
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