well i see people sending friend requests on various networking sites..
some add just for the sake of it...some add to know others...some add as they know each other...some add for other reasons....whatever the reason be....our friends' list keeps growing day by day....they are hardly our friends yet we are compelled to call them our friends...
how about removing them from the list? many people, very conveniently remove them...
some remove as they are pestered or spied on....some remove as they find some differences...some remove as they feel its not important...
why even add when you dont want them?
even i removed and added many people like that....but sometimes i wonder why i re-add or or remove them? i dont feel really comfortable when i dont see myself in others friends' list....
now comes the list in messengers....we have tons of them in our lists...we seldom talk/chat with them....yet we maintain a list for the sake of it...why even keep them when you have no time to atleast say 'hi' once in a year on your own? its not a wardrobe! why decorative pieces when you give no importance? i wish not to have such people in my list who never care to say hi....who cares ya...leave em for good!
now comes response to email....we keep fwding mails and messages....acknowledging them is ones own decision....the recipient has the liberty to acknowledge it or not.....but when you dont want to do it for life time...then why even receive mails? why not just block them rather than making the mailer- a fool?
now comes calls.....some people never build a habit of calling back....if you never call thats different....but if you are not responding to a call.....then why not pick once and just inform them that you dont want anymore calls?
i am not writing this mail out of frustration or whatever....but i am trying to scream that there is some basic etiquette which we have to follow...else i see no difference between us and other species....some emotions are still left in this world and its better if we understand them....time and work kill us for good...priorities keep changing....but not our instinct.....its better to be straight enough than be a hypocrite and fake oneself.....
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gud u mentioned ur not writing dis cos ur frustated or smthing like dat... so all gud..
now y add up unknwn ppl in d 1st place if u gota remove dem later?? now v'v all done it ..aftr all smtyms d meaning al d social netwrks goes sayin 2 get across new ppl n find old mates... so wot all does well 4 an individual gues dey do d same...
now all u wrote seems like sm1 getin frustated n jotting dwn stuff.. but 4 ur disclaimer at d end v knw its not d case... its jst smhw i feel often not responding 2 sm1 is not bein a hypocrite or fake.. cos come on in d 1st place if d person 2 is aware dat d2 dint go dwn well in past ,, how wud addin up on sites wud mk things bttr .. besides hypocricy is diff ..avoiding sm1 is smthin else n fakin urself is totaly diff... not d same.. rest ur free 2 find dem all d same...
now on d same lines i find it funny wen ppl follow d on blogs but nvr seem 2go thru d post 4 dey nvr commnt... only d philosophy seems 2b u follow me i follow u n increase d followers list... much like d funda f frnds list.. den again dis doesnt mks netihng fake n stuff ....only funny 2me...
happy diwali 2u btw.. njy d day,....
Happy Diwali.. :) Looks like you started celebrating it on mid day...
you find it odd as its brutal to give somebody the cold shoulder in real life but many of us would like to give it!
i read that we get emotionally close to only 20 people in our lifetime and here we have peoples friendlists running into 500s. the fact of the matter is that people are becoming exhibitionists and pretty soon we will have people who cant even have a basic conversation in person because all they can do is tweet!
Hey .. now i know.. but still not very clear .. u are following me on blogspot .. but then i never reciever any comments on my blogs .. wat abt dat ??
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Nicely written swathi, u knowmy frnsd in orkut are only whom i know from th elast few years. I do get friend request from people who are my colleuges, but i am afraid they do micromanagement.
I am never frustrated. I almost always acknowledge my mails and contacts.All my contacts like me (I hope).This is because "work" and "time" are not killing me.Work is enjoyable and very limited. And time passes. Even my "spam" folder is enjoyable. Someone mailed me on tips about "saving my marriage" Another mail is "make money on line"
Well written swati...i was also going through the same phase...but somehow i made up my mind to delete them from my frens list and now i am happy after that...:-) At times we get excited by seeing someone whom you knew earlier eventhough you dont know that person completely or closely...the result of which is you end up adding in your frens list...But be careful while deleting...dont get into a situation where you miss close frens just becoz they arent responding...doenst mean they dont care you..
yeah, somebody said they gonna call me back......last night.....and they didn't...............
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