love ke baare mein!

when every tom, dick, harry, rita, meeta and ....can speak about love...why cant I? so I am giving it a try...whats love?

1) for me there is nothing called true love or false love..there is only love...

2) i love many people in this world...but i am not in love with any

3) i love many things too...you see..sort of non-living love

4) i believe once i am in love.....i will never leave him till my death..but to fall in love is a big thing for me..

5) one would be faking if he/she says "pyar sirf ek hi baar hota hai.." naa....we love and also fall in love with more than 2-3 people in life time...its just that we dont tend to express or be with them for life time...

6) its not necessary that we love the one we get married to...every married couple is not a pair of soulmates...

7) its not necessary that we give our love an ultimate destination called marriage....we can still be in love and not get married...bonding keeps us close irrespective of the distance we live...

8) once the love is mutual...no matter what..it never dies...its eternal...but birth of such love is rare..

9) love at first sight does happen....but its legitimacy is a question!

10) sometimes we fall in love in first instance...sometimes we never fall in love -even if we are together and live close for decades

11) for those who are in love...they can understand the difference between lovemaking and having sex...

12) there is never a breakup in love...we just tend to get apart..yet we are deeply connected to each other and the bonding lives forever..

13) love happens to anyone irrespective of age, sex (yes it happens for some people..and we have to respect them!), financial status, caste, creed, complexion and all....

14) love means no business...its a spiritual and eternal connection which comes without pros and cons...

15) love never happens to those who are highly infatuated, as they feel its love each time they come across a man/woman

16) when we love ourself...we can/and are authorised to love others

17) love means no hatred and there are no killings/attacks/abuses....you dont tend to hurt your lover in any-which way!

18) there is no room for dislike and non-compromise in love...it happens when you want to do business..not love..

19) you can have multiple partners..yet love only one person....(this applies to some....no debate over this issue..any sensible person can understand what i mean)

20) love cant be explained..it can only be experienced...

i think i gave enough gyaan on love....i mean every word...and this is what i think...

unimportant emotions

well i see people sending friend requests on various networking sites..
some add just for the sake of it...some add to know others...some add as they know each other...some add for other reasons....whatever the reason be....our friends' list keeps growing day by day....they are hardly our friends yet we are compelled to call them our friends...

how about removing them from the list? many people, very conveniently remove them...
some remove as they are pestered or spied on....some remove as they find some differences...some remove as they feel its not important...
why even add when you dont want them?
even i removed and added many people like that....but sometimes i wonder why i re-add or or remove them? i dont feel really comfortable when i dont see myself in others friends' list....

now comes the list in messengers....we have tons of them in our lists...we seldom talk/chat with them....yet we maintain a list for the sake of it...why even keep them when you have no time to atleast say 'hi' once in a year on your own? its not a wardrobe! why decorative pieces when you give no importance? i wish not to have such people in my list who never care to say hi....who cares ya...leave em for good!

now comes response to email....we keep fwding mails and messages....acknowledging them is ones own decision....the recipient has the liberty to acknowledge it or not.....but when you dont want to do it for life time...then why even receive mails? why not just block them rather than making the mailer- a fool?

now comes calls.....some people never build a habit of calling back....if you never call thats different....but if you are not responding to a call.....then why not pick once and just inform them that you dont want anymore calls?

i am not writing this mail out of frustration or whatever....but i am trying to scream that there is some basic etiquette which we have to follow...else i see no difference between us and other species....some emotions are still left in this world and its better if we understand them....time and work kill us for good...priorities keep changing....but not our instinct.....its better to be straight enough than be a hypocrite and fake oneself.....

some updates

haven't updated my blog since a long time....so on my readers' request, i am posting some updates here

1) was down with viral fever, flu, cramps, and what not! enjoyed everything but swine flu. enjoyed the pamper by mom, sis and best friends who kept track of me 24x7. relished tons of coconut water and yeah shed some weight...the antibiotics were yuk and they made me sick...

2) our neighbour Mrs Rao lost her eye. Poor lady, she has this habit of spying on us each time our door bell rings....so, once while she was on job with an eye in the 'magic eye' of the door...her door bell rang..and in a hurry she pulled her face out and one of her eyes got stuck in it...poor woman...heard she is managing with only one eye now! the other eye is anyways on job....

3) went to kaminey and left the theater in the middle. thanks to the crappy wontons that i had before going to the movie...and the loud music and nonsensical drama....i had bad headache and puked on the pretty lady next to me in the theater (there was pinch of J also) ...and i came running out of the theater...

4) didnot shop at all....am running out of money and now my dad is keeping a track of each and every penny...he also has the list of dresses that i have now! gaawwwddd...i just asked him for another cupboard and he took away my atm card

5) learnt making chapathis...now i can make them without roasting/burning....they can be relished with any curry ordered from outside...am yet to learn how to make curries...and i dont think i can (want to) actually learn

6) am speeding up the process to find the man of my dreams...so sleeping a lot nowadays...

7) now am reading 3 books at a time....yeahh have been reading them since 4 months....

8) have stopped being online...as i feel...i have bugged everyone enough...time to rejuvenate my gtalk/yahoo messenger list

i think....i am done...more in my next post...