achchayi ka jamana nahi raha hai.....if a girl is sincere towards her aims and ethics, she is considered to be different. recently i had a small but effective conversation with a guy who claimed to be my admirer (i wonder what makes him admire me?) after avoiding his calls and not replying to his mails....i thought let me talk to him for the last time and tell him bluntly that i am not interested in talking to him....he called me on my phone....and our conversation went on like this...
guy: hello...hi..how are you?
me: hi..am fine. just busy with my work
g: today is weekend..what makes you work till late evening...
m: oh..i hv got some work..so just busy with it...
g: well am unable to forget you...so i am calling you up...i want to talk to you...can i talk to you for a while
m: yes. no problem. carryon
g: ok. so is anybody there in your office? or alone.
m: yes..there are some colleagues of mine...
g: then there must be someone special in your office which is making you stay till evening
m: (annoyed by the statement) look, am here to work but not to chill out with guys..i told you several times that i am not interested in guys and dont prefer to hangout with them frequently
g: why dont you go out with guys???
m: am not the one who is interested in chilling out..i have some principles and stick to them..and dont even like to encourage such phone calls..
g: you are not interested in guys??? oh..are you a lesbian?????
m: ???????? (almost fainted)..what...excuse me....
and the conversation became one way... i scolded him from the core of my heart and warned him not to call me ever again in the future...
i believe...there is no room for sincerety in the present day world.....whats wrong if i dont like to hangout with guys and prefer to stay home or have a nice talk with my friends who are girls? does it mean that I dont think straight????????
Sunday, June 10, 2007
Monday, June 04, 2007
relations and complexities
(these are my views....)
From LKG to PG, we keep meeting people. At different stages of life, it is a different experience. I am still in touch with one of my kindergarten classmates. I have no idea how the bonding starts and maintains the relation.
Then when we switch on to the school days.. it is a life of primitive feelings. We are new to a world where we are exposed to hundreds of people. We are in an early stage of friendship and don’t know what it is…but still manage to have a talk and interaction with the classmates. Many of the classmates, neighborhood friends and of course those who used to come with me in rickshaw,,, I remember all of them. But still, many others recognize me and say they know me since my school days.
And then, we suddenly come to the higher secondary school where the politics begin. We start differentiating, between people. Groups are formed and memberships are unique. We carve a niche for our feelings…yes and the most important part is friendship with guys, links, affairs.. huh…
Half of them overcome these, half of them pass through…
And then the college days.. God knows what kind of hormones are released at this stage.. again new people and new feelings…but this time…talking too much to a guy may result in an affair.. so a “stay away” attitude.. mom, dad and if possible, the siblings,…everyone has an eye on you. These are the days of extreme pressure of studies, exams, career and what not…I guess, going through the adolescent phase is the toughest part of ones life..
And finally, graduate school….this time,, we think we are matured enough and are in a position to decide what’s right and what’s wrong (but I feel we are not).
We are a little bit stabilized, have the attitude of chill out, and start enjoying our life in our own way…dresses, cosmetics, movies and food zones are a fancy at this stage. Gossiping takeover all other issues leaving us in separate groups. We shift groups often and become rivals or the best buddies of each other…
And then postgraduation or the job days,,,
Personally, I feel this is the most stabilized age of ones life…we meet new people but not very frank with them. The bonding starts slowly,, if it tunes well, will stay forever…if it doesn’t, we are the best enemies…yeah I do have hell lot of them…
In job front, we again have a niche,,, colleagues and outside friends…have a separate inclination towards each other…
Apart from this straight interaction, we meet others as part of journeys, outside classrooms, tuitions, neighborhood, families and relatives.. and what not.. and yes most important…internet..
It is indeed a web of relations in ones life. We are part of them and we maintain statuesque…it is inseparable…we learn new things…we teach others…
We are benefited, we are ditched, we hate them.. we love them…we talk to them…we avoid them…
After all…these are relations inclusive of complexities….
From LKG to PG, we keep meeting people. At different stages of life, it is a different experience. I am still in touch with one of my kindergarten classmates. I have no idea how the bonding starts and maintains the relation.
Then when we switch on to the school days.. it is a life of primitive feelings. We are new to a world where we are exposed to hundreds of people. We are in an early stage of friendship and don’t know what it is…but still manage to have a talk and interaction with the classmates. Many of the classmates, neighborhood friends and of course those who used to come with me in rickshaw,,, I remember all of them. But still, many others recognize me and say they know me since my school days.
And then, we suddenly come to the higher secondary school where the politics begin. We start differentiating, between people. Groups are formed and memberships are unique. We carve a niche for our feelings…yes and the most important part is friendship with guys, links, affairs.. huh…
Half of them overcome these, half of them pass through…
And then the college days.. God knows what kind of hormones are released at this stage.. again new people and new feelings…but this time…talking too much to a guy may result in an affair.. so a “stay away” attitude.. mom, dad and if possible, the siblings,…everyone has an eye on you. These are the days of extreme pressure of studies, exams, career and what not…I guess, going through the adolescent phase is the toughest part of ones life..
And finally, graduate school….this time,, we think we are matured enough and are in a position to decide what’s right and what’s wrong (but I feel we are not).
We are a little bit stabilized, have the attitude of chill out, and start enjoying our life in our own way…dresses, cosmetics, movies and food zones are a fancy at this stage. Gossiping takeover all other issues leaving us in separate groups. We shift groups often and become rivals or the best buddies of each other…
And then postgraduation or the job days,,,
Personally, I feel this is the most stabilized age of ones life…we meet new people but not very frank with them. The bonding starts slowly,, if it tunes well, will stay forever…if it doesn’t, we are the best enemies…yeah I do have hell lot of them…
In job front, we again have a niche,,, colleagues and outside friends…have a separate inclination towards each other…
Apart from this straight interaction, we meet others as part of journeys, outside classrooms, tuitions, neighborhood, families and relatives.. and what not.. and yes most important…internet..
It is indeed a web of relations in ones life. We are part of them and we maintain statuesque…it is inseparable…we learn new things…we teach others…
We are benefited, we are ditched, we hate them.. we love them…we talk to them…we avoid them…
After all…these are relations inclusive of complexities….
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